That thing called love.

If ya'll are thinking : 'Hey didn't you just wrote a love post?' My response will be: 'Yes, another love post, like it or love it!'

Why do we push away love?

The word love and the act of it in itself is so underrated. Everyone wants to feel loved at least once in a while, feel special and even thought about. Love makes people happy, it puts a smile on grim faces, gives butterflies, makes hearts beat faster, it gives hope and confidence etc.

But how come when people say ''I love you'' lately the magic is gone, or it's said out of habit? Or better yet, how come we don't tell our loved ones we love them more often? It's like the act of love gives us a certain vulnerabilaty we often don't appreciate, because it exposes us, makes us look weak, gives a free passage to rejection, hurt, dissapointments and anger. All kinds of emotions which ache to deal with and therefore we are willing to do anything to make us not feel them at all. But love is so much more than that. 

love  

/ləv/

Noun An intense feeling of deep affection

I know everybody defines love in his/her own perspective. This was the dictionaries' : An intense feeling of deep affection. Every word in this description can saperately be seen as an individual description of the word love. 

Intense: strong, extreme, ridiculously, madly, NEARLY limitless. 

Feeling: empathy, sensitivity, open heartedness, vulnerable.

Deep: lost in love, falling, sincere, in it for the long ride.

Affection: caring, attachment, hearty, genuine. 

Of course this doesn't describe love completely, because no matter how beautifully used words are, love can't fully be described by them, only by heart. Our heart is the measure of our profound inner feelings and our given inner feelings towards people and our heart wants to love, it wants to care, it wants to give affection. But our minds often limit it, out of fright, caution, shelter or whatsoever the reason is. But our minds can't satisfy our need of wanting to be loved and cared for, but in order to be loved we need to be willing to give love as well. And as stated above love is ridiculous, extreme, genuine, it will make us stumble, be vulnerable, open hearted, but it will give us sincereness, happiness, courage, strength, fierceness, wild rides, adventure, peace and patience. 

Don't build walls around your heart to provoke you from loving, it will only provoke you from eventually feeling anything all. Love is scary and painful sometimes, but it teaches us the matter of life, it gives us the oppertunity to grow, be independent, cautious, smart, wise and eventually be a better person. We need to love like kids again; hopeful, unconditional, warm, silly and fearless.

So to get back at what started this post in the first place: when you tell your family, friends, neighbors, boyfriends, girlfriends, husband and wives you love them, do this fearless, open heartedly, genuinely, because you might make their day/week/month/year/life, don't say it out of habit or custom, you might as well say nothing at all.

Everybody wants to be loved once in a while! 

 X's & O's!